I am struggling

I am struggling with the whole notion of having a child who will look so different. Fiona's height has now dropped to -3 standard deviations on the WHO height chart, so she is at 0.4th percentile and probably soon she will entirely move off the chart. Her head is now on the 91st...
We went to my company's children's Christmas party and I couldn't help but wonder, will I enjoy it in a few years when everyone will be staring at her and us, will my other children enjoy it... When does the staring begin anyhow, I wonder and how long does it take to get used to... The few older kids I have seen with hypo, I suppose I wouldn't have noticed that they look different when they are on their own, but surely they are a lot shorter when they are with their peers. It's not like people are walking around with tape measure to measure limb lengths...
I hope she will only look different and won't be different in her cognitive capacities, for now she continues to meet all her milestones with flying colors. And what's the psychological impact of living your life feeling so different and how much of that can a loving family compensate for. And maybe she will be like Lia, maybe she has inherited my restless mind that is always racing ahead, never giving me a second of peace. She is nearly 7 months and there is not one fay that I am not thinking why this had to happen to her, the cruelty of it all is beyond me.
We haven't said anything to our other kids and now I am beginning to wonder if we should, but my husband insists that it is better to wait until the question arise. And he is probably right, every time I start a big topic with the kids that they are not ready for yet, the conversation kind of abruptly stops.
The other day I overheard this woman complaining that her daughter is so tall that she always has to stand in the back for school photos and she kept going on and on how unfair this was...